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Contraceptive Culture in Africa – An Arm Implant Story
Today’s baddie is a 26-year-old lady that describes her Implant contraceptive story as a horror one, is tired of contraceptives, and would rather get a hysterectomy. Can you remember the first time you heard about contraceptives? Well, I’ve always known about condoms and I had a friend that told me about her implant but I didn’t really get a lot of details about them till I had a yeast infection in university and had to go see a general practitioner. After the diagnosis and everything she gave me a talk about all the different methods and showed them to me in real life. Gave me pamphlets as well to take…
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Let’s Talk – Is Virginity a Social Construct?
It’s been months since I have wanted to get on YouTube, Impostor syndrome has been telling me that I do not have anything to share. We both know it’s a lie so I am sharing this video as imperfect as it can be. I spoke about virginity being a social construct. Posting this is a big win for me, I would love to hear your thoughts and kindly subscribe to my YouTube channel.
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Girl, I had a Safe Abortion in Nigeria
We started around 8 and I left the hospital a little before midnight. She asked if I had done this before and I said I hadn't. She asked because she wanted to know what my body could take. We started with pills that went under my tongue so they'd melt while I was receiving a drip.
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My Abortion Story – Ep.3
It’s such a complicated thing really. I sometimes imagine keeping the first child, he/she would have been also 5 years old. “Women are like teabags. We don’t know our true strength until we are in hot water.” – Eleanor Roosevelt This is the third episode in the Abortion series, please read with an open mind and share with a friend if you enjoyed it Why did you decide that you were going to get an abortion? So I’ve actually done it twice and hopefully will never do it again because I’m never having sex again. Lol. The first time, I was in 300L. I knew I was not ready to…
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My Abortion Story – Anonymous Submission Ep.2
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” —Nora Ephron Here is the second story on the “My Abortion Story” series. The honesty of these stories makes my heart melt. if you have not read Episode 1 you should read itMy Abortion Story – Anonymous Submission Ep.1 1. Why did you decide that you were going to get an abortion? We were on a short break and we had just gotten back together when I found out I was pregnant. At first, I was scared but I knew immediately that I didn’t want the child. I told myself that it was because of my parents and the…
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My Abortion Story – Anonymous Submission Ep.1
Abortion is a word we are all familiar with and have different opinions on. I strongly feel that connecting with women that have done this, by listening to their stories will trigger a feeling of empathy and not just entitlements to women’s bodies. I had a chat with a few women that have had abortions and here is the first interview under this series titled ‘My Abortion Story‘ She prefers to be anonymous but for the sake of this interview, we will name her Gold. 1. Why did you decide that you were going to get an abortion? Fear mostly. I couldn’t face my parents with a baby, I couldn’t…
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3 Women Talk on Taking their Husbands Name, Will they take it or not?
I was having a conversation with my friend on taking husbands name, and I decided to ask on my Instagram page, so here are replies from 3 ladies on taking their husband’s name after marriage. Ebukun Gbemisola Ogunyemi Not taking and not adding.I’m very sentimental about my name, and I don’t believe taking on your husband’s name is an integral process of unionization. I think it’s just a patriarchal motivated ‘directive’ – the seal of Belonging to him and not yourself. You answer to him. Cos you bear his name now. And not your father. But then, I believe a lot of women have been integrated into the process so…
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Being a Nigerian Lady that Might Not Want Children
Follow my blog with Bloglovin Over time, I have been saying I am not sure I want children. You know how people have certain expectations of you when you are a Nigerian lady, submissiveness, and all that marry on time and give birth thing. Do you know? yes, that was pretty much my life when I was younger, and it never felt right so, when I discovered feminism it all made sense and I did not feel alone anymore. There were women that wanted what I want. I was seen, I was heard, I was no longer invisible. I made a promise to myself to question every action I take;…
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3 Things Every Woman MUST know about Her Vulva
They are like our faces, there is no normal looking vulva and I wish I knew this when I was younger because I remember telling I am going to be writing about the vulva a couple of times because over the years I have realized that a lot of us, women do not know enough about our bodies, which is not surprising because apart from the don’t get pregnant talk, we did not really get any form of sex education from our parents/guardians. Especially in this part of the world. I took it upon myself to learn about my body especially the vagina and I will be sharing what I have learned…
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Help a Woman in IDP Camp, Give 1000 Naira
In my last blog post – you can read that HERE – IDP camp -My Experience & What I Want to do For The Women I told you how we gave the kids in an IDP camp a sense of belonging by celebrating Children’s day with them and how I intend to help the women by providing clothes and sanitary products for them. Since then, I thought a lot about how I want to approach this cause and I have finally figured out how to go about it. My goal is to organize a skills program for the women so they can support themselves but I also understand baby steps, today might…