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IDP camp -My Experience & What I Want to do For The Women
There are over 13 Internally Displaced Persons (IDP) camps set up in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) for people fleeing from the insurgency in the North East zone of Nigeria. I once read an article that children in Internally Displaced person camp were feeding on onion leaves to survive. I also heard that women sometimes use dirty clothes for their period. It broke my heart to pieces and I have decided to do something about it. Amongst the many IDP camps in the FCT – Wasa, Kpegyi, Waru, Pya Kasa, Kuje, Lubge, Sabon Kuchi Goro village, Mararaba, Nyanya, Mission field at Kwali in the FCT and Kugaru and Kagruma in Nasarawa state to…
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Abuja Police Raid On Women Protest, What Went Down
I attended the protest on Saturday, May 4, 2019, in Abuja, Nigeria to lend my voice to that of other strong women and men against the Abuja police raid on women. In case, you did not know about the police assault on Abuja women, here’s a back story. 70 ladies were arrested in Utako, Abuja, Nigeria for being prostitutes, some of them were raped by police officers with pure water sachets and they have injuries in their vagina. A mother was not allowed to breastfeed her 2-month-old child until a female officer intervened. 30 women were arrested previously. The officers that are supposed to be protecting us are the culprits.…
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My Yoni (Vagina) Massage Experience & Where To Get Yoni Massage
Yoni massage is a type of massage that focuses on the Vulva and Vagina. Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina which means ‘sacred space‘ In Tantra philosophy, the vagina is approached from a place of the utmost love and respect. Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure, and to explore the sacred side of our sexuality. About 2 weeks ago, I received a Yoni massage and boy oh boy! My Yoni Massage Experience Before meeting up for the massage, I was nervous, I mean. A stranger’s hand was going to be in my Yoni, but I was really stressed, very…
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Virginity testing -What, Where and Methods of Virginity Testing
A woman’s body should not be used as a tool for intimidation, and nobody should have their dignity violated – Samira Ibrahim What is virginity testing? Virginity testing is the examination of the sex organs of a person, usually a female. This is done to make sure that the girl child has not engaged in sexual intercourse and is ‘pure’. Where is virginity testing practiced Virginity testing is practiced around the world, particularly in parts of Africa, Asia, and the Middle East. It has also been found in Western countries like Canada, Spain, Sweden, and the Netherlands. In October 2018, the world health Organization stated that virginity testing is a…
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Vasectomy; How it’s done And All You Need To Know
Vasectomy is rarely spoken about, Most times when we talk about birth control methods we focus on the women, a lot of people do not know that apart from condoms there’s another way men can be in charge of preventing pregnancy. I read one of the most knowledgeable and very explanatory threads I’ve read on twitter about Vasectomy by Dr. Olufunmilayo, a Medical doctor on twitter that shares useful information about health on Twitter. Disclaimer: This content (a thread on Twitter) was posted with the writer’s permission and should not be copied without his authorization. Here’s the thread, word for word. Recently about a few days ago, I did a little poll…
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Sex As A Form Of Therapy to Girls And How To Heal
I was having a conversation with some women on sex and self-esteem. Reading my post on sexuality means I encourage women to accept their sexuality but this conversation was the reason behind why some ladies are very sexual. And God bless that day, a strong and amazing soul was ready to share her story with me centered on this issue. I’ll call her Joy. She opened up to me about her rough childhood. She has abusive parents who hit and beat her mercilessly and verbally abused her. Her father was fond of calling her a prostitute; she faced sexual harassment but could not tell her parents because they were very…
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Are Feminists Fake For Not Proposing To Their Partners?
was reading one of the most amazing Essay I’ve read that was authored by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie titled Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen suggestions. This book was a letter in response to a friend of Chimamanda who asked how to raise her daughter, Feminist. I learned so much from this book that I will be breaking down some lessons in upcoming blog posts, today’s focus is on marriage proposals. Isn’t it odd that in most societies in the world today, women generally cannot propose marriage? Marriage is such a major step in your life, and yet you cannot take charge of it. It depends on a man…
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5 Alarming Effects of not Educating the Girl Child About Sex
Sex education is not just a talk, it’s a series of conversation. A lot of girls like me never really got educated about sex apart from the ‘if you get close to a boy you will get pregnant’ talk, the girl child should be educated about sex depending on their age, the questions they ask and as puberty hits, help them understand their desires, why they think and feel how they feel and not shame them. Age to Age guide of talking to your kids about sex Teenagers are really sensitive toward changes in their appearance during puberty and with the onset of puberty, they would experience stress and negative…
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Things Men Should Know About The 21st Century Woman
I always come across a lot of articles on what men need, what women need to know about men, how to act around men, and all of those while I see very few articles for men about women, most of which are misleading and/or insulting to the 21st-century woman. Here are a couple of things men need to know about the 21st -century women in no particular order. Ladies, please feel free to add yours in the comment section below. The 21st Century woman is not confused We can actually think for ourselves. All that women are confused stuff is just not right. People get confused and it’s normal in life.…
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Discussing An Under-reported Torture To Girls – Breast Ironing
I wish we didn’t live in a world where girls have to physically and psychologically abused to feel safe and still not be safe. Breast Ironing/ flattening is self-explanatory really, it is the ironing or flattening of the girl child’s breast by pounding and massaging of a girl’s breasts, using hard or heated objects, to try to make them stop developing or disappear. This barbaric act is mostly carried out by their mothers, aunties, sisters, grandmothers and even nurses. They believe that this procedure is the best thing to do to their daughters(10-19 years old) to make them look sexually unattractive to men to prevent rape (most men believe that when…