I was reading one of the most amazing Essay I’ve read that was authored by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie titled Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen suggestions. This book was a letter in response to a friend of Chimamanda who asked how to raise her daughter, Feminist. I learned so much from this book that I will be breaking down some lessons in upcoming blog posts, today’s focus is on marriage proposals.
Sex education is not just a talk, it’s a series of conversation. A lot of girls like me never really got educated about sex apart from the ‘if you get close to a boy you will get pregnant’ talk, the girl child should be educated about sex depending on their age, the questions they ask and as puberty hits, help them understand their desires, why they think and feel how they feel and not shame them.
I always come across a lot of articles on what men need, what women need to know about men, how to act around men and all of those while I see very few articles for men about women, most of which are misleading and/or insulting to the 21st-century woman. Here are a couple of things men need to know about the 21st -century women in no particular order. Ladies, please feel free to add yours in the comment section below.
I wish we didn’t live in a world where girls have to physically and psychologically abused to feel safe and still not be safe.
Breast Ironing/ flattening is self-explanatory really, it is the ironing or flattening of the girl child’s breast by pounding and massaging of a girl’s breasts, using hard or heated objects, to try to make them stop developing or disappear.
This barbaric act is mostly carried out by their mothers, aunties, sisters, grandmothers and even nurses.
I came across a tweet on Twitter. it was centered on sanitary towels being free. The twitter user made the statement that
“Saying pads should be free because it’s not a choice to menstruate is like saying food should be free because it’s not a choice to feed”
I’ve been hoping that a day will come when we will talk about the objectification of women, women’s sexuality, how the society sees sexually active women as sluts, how women are made to shrink their sexual desires to be seen as women. We will talk about it, I will talk about it and that day is today.