Female Development and Style

A woman’s body should not be used as a tool for intimidation, and nobody should have their dignity violated – Samira Ibrahim

What is virginity testing?

Virginity testing is the examination of the sex organs of a person, usually a female. This is done to make sure that the girl child has not engaged in sexual intercourse and is ‘pure’.

Where is virginity testing practiced

Virginity testing is practiced around the world, particularly in parts of Africa, Asia, and the Middle East. It has also been found in Western countries like Canada, Spain, Sweden, and the Netherlands.

In October 2018, the world health Organization stated that virginity testing is a painful, humiliating and a traumatic practice that constitutes violence against women and must end.

Physicians have also spoken about the unreliability of virginity testing, but people continue to do this.

 

How virginity testing is carried out

The most common test for virginity testing is the presence of an intact hymen. It is widely believed that the hymen will break at first intercourse, causing bleeding.

Virginity testing is carried out in different ways around the world

  • Two-finger insertion where a person checks the tightness or looseness of the vagina by inserting their fingers inside it. But what a lot of them do not understand is the absence of hymen can be caused by other factors and some women lack hymen from birth, so this is not a reliable method to ‘check’ virginity.

In India, common methods used include:

  • Kukari ki Rasam– A thread is used to detect the presence of a hymen; A white thread is placed on the bed when the couple have sex after marriage. The following morning, elders of the family locate traces of blood on it.
  • Paani ki Deej – (purity by water), A woman is expected to hold her breath underwater while someone walks a hundred steps. 100 steps!
  • Agnipariksha – (trial by fire), brides walk with a red-hot iron in hand with only a plate made from leaves and dough shielding her hands from the heat. Women who are unable to do the task or leave it in mid-way are considered impure.

Brides who fail the tests are beaten and forced to disclose the names of sexual partners, who are then required to pay the bride’s parents large sums of money. So that, they can accept an ‘impure bride’ – Source



My heart goes out to the girls that have gone through these ‘tests’, it’s so common. Most of us have friends, sisters, cousins, aunties that have gone through this, it’s invasive and not getting as much attention as it should be getting.

The practice is sexist, it preaches that sexual liberty is acceptable for men, but not for women, it says women’s bodies are not completely theirs and they will be shamed if they choose to have sex outside marriage.

Imagine a 15-year-old girl coming back from school and the next thing she must do is open her legs wide apart so an adult can ‘confirm’ her ‘pureness’ and God forbid she has lost it through sports and other activities or not born with one. She will not be believed, be disciplined and abused.

Everyone should have the right to do what they want to do with their body.

If people are so bothered about girls having sex, sex education is the way, teach girls all they need to know about sex. Making a girl feel like she has no control over her body is wrong! I have heard of cases where girls have anal sex just so they can remain ‘virgins’ or insert things that should not go into their vagina like alum or sit inside hot water so they can be ‘tight’ during the test.

When I was younger, I used to get the ‘keep your virginity talk’ and that was as much as most of us got with regards to sex education. I’m glad I was not ‘tested, I would have felt sick to my stomach for having my privacy invaded like that.

I will love to collate stories from ladies that have experienced Virginity testing, we need to spark conversations about this so people understand that this is an invasive, painful, humiliating and a traumatic practice that constitutes violence against women and must end.

 

Kindly send me an email Funkeolotu50@gmail.com

Every submission will be posted anonymously.

Please share with anyone that you think has a story that must be heard.

Love and Light always

Funke

 

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26 Comments

  • Posted March 19, 2019 6:13 am
    by Debs

    This is such an informative and insightful post. To be honest, I thought this dated back to the 90s, never knew it’s still existing.

    It’s such a sickening idea and we really need to continue to talk about it.

    Thanks for sharing, Funke.

    • Posted March 19, 2019 9:25 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      it’s still being practiced and it’s sad!

  • Posted March 19, 2019 9:25 pm
    by kristin lesney

    I will say I have never really heard of this. With 3 daughters, we have other ways of keep our daughters thinking. Need to help the rest of the world.

  • Posted March 19, 2019 9:31 pm
    by Beth Pierce

    I was unaware such practices were still in place. That’s horrible!

  • Posted March 20, 2019 5:55 am
    by Blair villanueva

    It is sad and still unbelievable old practice. Definitely i am not favor to thos is it ridiculous.

  • Posted March 20, 2019 11:16 am
    by artchee

    This is really sad to know. There should be progress in the way of thinking as well.

    • Posted March 20, 2019 1:02 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      its sad that when it comes to the girl child, there is little progress

  • Posted March 20, 2019 3:27 pm
    by Heather

    What year are we in that this is even still a thing. Some things are none of anyone’s business.

  • Posted March 20, 2019 4:17 pm
    by emman damian

    It’s a very sensitive topic to talk about. I hope there should be more awareness soon.

    • Posted March 20, 2019 7:14 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      I hope so, I hope I get stories so I can share

  • Posted March 20, 2019 8:23 pm
    by Tiffany La Forge-Grau

    This is just terrible. The objectification and humiliation inflicted on these women has gone on in these areas for thousands of years. Time to evolve.

    • Posted March 20, 2019 9:44 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      It’s time and it needs to happen now

  • Posted March 20, 2019 8:29 pm
    by Wendy Polisi

    Wow, hard to believe people go along with it still. It is an archaic and humiliating practice.

    • Posted March 20, 2019 9:43 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      It’s humiliating and it needs to be stopped

  • Posted March 20, 2019 8:30 pm
    by Joanna Clite

    So sad. I pray daily for the ones who suffer at the hands of such objectification.

    • Posted March 20, 2019 9:43 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      My heart goes out to them ? makes me weak and feel like there’s little I can do

  • Posted March 20, 2019 11:12 pm
    by Claudia K.

    Hard to believe this! I am without words….

  • Posted March 21, 2019 1:34 pm
    by Autumn Murray

    Absolutely horrifying that in this day and age something like this is still being done. When will there come a time when women are treated with respect?

  • Posted March 25, 2019 10:00 am
    by Cirphrank

    So sickening. Glad as usual, you are speaking up for mankind.

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