Female Development and Style


I write this at 8; 27 am, Saturday, January, 2019 thinking of where I am now and smiling at myself, midway tears gather in my eyes and I  let them out.

Dear younger self

This is a letter from me to you.

When you get to school, don’t be worried about what other people think and the rumor flying around about you, other people’s word does not define you. You are more than that.


People see you doing the things you love and they say you love attention, let them say. Never let your light dim. That light and zeal to do what you enjoy will open doors for you.


You will lose friends you take as sisters, it will be painful because that type of love and pain is different to what you are used to but you will be fine, sometimes it will hurt you and make you cry but you always end up with good people by your side because you are a good person with an amazing soul.


You waste too much time looking at yourself in the mirror wishing to be someone else, the hurtful words you heard growing up about your skin and how flat you butt was fueled this so you sometimes cry yourself to sleep remembering the faces of the mean people, the disgust in their words and sometimes feel that no one deserved to see the horror on your face


Girl, you should see you now. You are tired of the curves and although your skin is still a work in progress, you are on fire and not letting it hold you down.


Remember that man that gave you poison disguised as love? The one that made you see the world as a cruel place? He is nowhere close now, he can never hurt you again. I wish you were not scared and hiding from pain for that 2 years but that would be unfair. At 13 you handled it alone, well and it has shaped you into the awesome person that you are today.


You have loved deeply and were treated like a princess that mummy calls you, she still calls you that in public and now it’s just embarrassing.

Currently, your love life is not perfect but there is progress and do you remember that growth is one of the most important things in life?


I love when you smile, although sometimes I say I hate it because it makes our nose look bigger and society thought me that that was not the definition of beauty but they were wrong. You have been beautiful since the birth of you.


You have always loved helping people, you are still, through the little ways, people confide in you, mostly women and you help and walk them through the pain. I love you deeply. I’m sorry for the nights you cried yourself to sleep because you felt unloved, you felt there was no light and it would continue like that forever. Well, you’re over that now, you are too full of life to feel like that.


You are happy, you are beautiful, you are strong, you are a good person, stop beating yourself up for mistakes, you are allowed to be flawed.


You are the reason I want to do better every day, did I tell you that you are so smart and you got your first job at 20 and you absolutely love it!


I love you
Cheers to more letters as we mature, grow and thrive.

Love and Light



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  • Posted January 19, 2019 9:21 pm
    by Debbrah Maxwell

    This is a beautiful Funke

  • Posted January 19, 2019 9:58 pm
    by Odinakachukwu Ndukwe

    Love this. It made me emotional and brought back memories. I should write a letter to my younger self, I’m sure she’s waiting for an encouragement.


    • Posted January 20, 2019 10:40 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      Yesssss… I felt better after writing this. You definitely should

  • Posted January 19, 2019 10:34 pm
    by Blackfrochick

    Very lovely letter Funke…. I read this into reality… Well done b

  • Posted January 19, 2019 11:12 pm
    by Sike Gbana

    This reminds me to write a post like this to myself. Love your letter Funke. You are amazing!

    Love, Sike

    • Posted January 20, 2019 10:40 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you Sike! I’ll love to read

  • Posted January 19, 2019 11:18 pm
    by Cirphrank

    Had a swell time reading this, this is true strength exhibited.

    • Posted January 20, 2019 10:41 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you for always reading my posts and cheering me up. I really appreciate you?

  • Posted January 20, 2019 2:17 pm
    by Debs

    There are so many parts in this posts that resonates with me and touching deep cores. I’m glad I’m grown now and in a better place. While we may not have it all figured out, we’ve learnt better over the years.

    Thanks for sharing this dear.

    • Posted January 20, 2019 4:02 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Growth is the king. We will continue learning and growing baby

  • Posted February 4, 2019 9:48 pm
    by Vickiealfa

    Currently writing one to myself and decided to use yours to encourage me to publish, this is really beautiful

    • Posted February 6, 2019 6:04 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      thats so good to hear vickie
      i will go read

  • Posted February 25, 2019 3:04 am
    by Roseline

    Beautiful, I have been bingempty reading your blog…???

    • Posted March 3, 2019 5:45 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      thank you so much Roseline, about time i start posting again

  • Posted March 15, 2019 12:14 pm
    by Stacie

    That is so powerful. I think we all wish we could write a letter to our younger selves. Knowing what we know now would have made everything we went through before so much more bearable.

  • Posted March 15, 2019 12:40 pm
    by Subhashish Roy

    Amazing reading.I totally agree with you that it’s not the outside but the inside of us what truly matters. The world can go to hell, let our journey continue with a clean heart. Wish you well.Haven’t met you but reading your thoughts makes me convinced what a great soul you are. Continue to be what you are. Regards & Best Wishes.Wishing you lots of happiness ?

    • Posted March 15, 2019 1:00 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you so much!
      I deeply appreciate this

  • Posted March 15, 2019 5:21 pm
    by StylishGeek

    So wonderful for you to share with us what your letter would be to your younger self. I enjoyed the read!

  • Posted March 16, 2019 3:05 am
    by Theresa

    Boy, I sure do wish our younger selves could get a letter like this from our future self. It’s amazing how much we learn and grow through life. I am sure your younger self would have loved these words of encouragement!

  • Posted March 16, 2019 11:47 am
    by artchee

    These are great thoughts to encourage a younger self. Every young person would benefit from the encouragements.

  • Posted March 16, 2019 2:07 pm
    by Kristine Nicole Alessandra

    I tried doing this a few years back but I never finished it because it brought tears to my eyes. When I was in my 20s, it was the most difficult time in my life. Thank you for inspiring me to finish that letter to myself.

    • Posted March 16, 2019 2:20 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Awwwnn.. I’m glad you are inspired Kristine. I hope you finish it, I’ll love to read it ?

  • Posted March 16, 2019 3:32 pm

    You look beautiful and you’ve inspired my next blog post!

  • Posted March 16, 2019 8:43 pm
    by Beth Pierce

    I should do this! What a great opportunity to reflect and see how far you’ve grown and what lessons you have learned throughout the years!

  • Posted March 16, 2019 8:49 pm
    by Sara Welch

    This sounds so therapeutic! Growing pains can be hard, but it molds us to who we are today! Sounds like you have learned a lot over the years!

    • Posted March 17, 2019 9:03 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      I have sara, If I can say so myself
      It is therapeutic

  • Posted March 17, 2019 1:55 am
    by Wendy Polisi

    When we’re young, we haven’t experienced enough of life to fully appreciate who we are. Once we’ve been through more, we realize we are special.

  • Posted March 17, 2019 1:07 pm
    by Emmanuel Damian

    I love this beautiful post! It’s so powerful! I should make my own version soon.

  • Posted March 17, 2019 1:08 pm
    by Fatima Torres

    I love your confidence and everything you’d share with your younger self. I think it’s important to understand that everything falls into place.

  • Posted March 17, 2019 1:10 pm
    by Heather Barber McMechan

    These are such inspirational words for a younger you. It’s important to understand the value in ourselves.

  • Posted August 8, 2019 12:32 pm
    by Olamide

    This is amazing!!!
    I believe we need to drop this for ourselves not necessarily for public but to serve as a reminder for ourselves that we are better than we were yesterday and also as an encouragement that we will be better tomorrow. Thank you for this

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