Female Development and Style

It’s 8;15 pm 29th of December, 2019 and I am writing this post. 15 minutes earlier I felt like a failure and sad that I did not do much in 2019.

I went on my Instagram page, not sure what I was looking for, tapped a picture and the caption I used was

‘Where ever you are right now
Let it teach you something.
Be kind to yourself
On the journey
And in the process
Of who you are becoming’

2019, i won

It was a quote by MHN and tears dropped on my cheeks and I continued reading my captions on Instagram and I felt better. Life has a funny way of making our wins look small and I was not going to let that happen to me because in 2019 I WENT THROUGH THE MOST and I DID NOT ONLY SURVIVE BUT I THRIVED!

I am going to be listing some of my wins in this post to remind myself that I am that baddie.

I successfully raised over 100 thousand Naira to buy sanitary products for the IDP women at Durunmi Camp, Abuja.

I participated in a march against abuse on women in Abuja. we marched from the old parade ground to the FCT police headquarters because of the women that were arrested for prostitution and were raped by the police.

I overcame my acne insecurity; I posted a selfie after a year and I started my YouTube channel. starting my YouTube Channel was so refreshing and I hope to be more consistent moving forward.

I got a 9-5 Job and I quit when it was no longer serving me.

I made and kept amazing friends.

I bought myself a new phone & Laptop. My amazing friend got me a camera. They are so important to me because of my blog and career path.

I started an online course on Digital Marketing, I wanted to finish the course before the year ends but 2020 is still part of the journey. we move!

I got my highest paying blog deal ever!

I became financially independent. I am not where I want to be financially but there is progress compared to last year and I am proud of myself.

I surpassed 60,000 views on the blog, thank you for reading and engaging with me. I love you, I appreciate you and your comments warm my heart.

I created The Safe Space Ng.

One thing I have decided to inject in my veins moving forward is that 2020 is part of my journey, it is not a destination, there are a lot of things I need to improve on in 2020 like time management, being disciplined and consistency with everything that I am doing, being more intentional with reaching out to friends and saying NO to what does not add to my growth.

2020 will be a year of intentionality, growth and major moves. I will keep moving, keep creating and keep being myself.

Tell me about your 2019, let it flow. I really want to read about your wins and losses.

Until next time,

Love & Light

Funke Olotu


  • Posted January 1, 2020 11:15 am
    by Angel Nduka-Nwosu

    Sis it’s super important to write and document our wins cause life really can make us feel small.
    I too was feeling like I hadn’t done much cause I went to my IG and saw what others were doing and started feeling like I hadn’t reached my goal.
    So it deeply resonated with me when you said life’s a journey not a destination.
    I mean I’m practically living the life I want.
    I can read which my grandma couldn’t and I write poetry and perform it and it touches the lives of women I haven’t even met.
    I may not be there financially and I doubt I ever would cause in this Nigeria money can just go fiam under one circumstance. Plus I don’t want my security to be in money cause that’s fickle.

    Lol so my wins.
    1. Organizing #SayHerNameNigeria.
    2. Being in the BBC Sex For Grades.
    3. Performing Two powerful poems at Ouida Open Mic and Temmie Ovwasa’s Unleashed.
    4. Getting paid for the first time for my poetry. The money went into Christmas gifts for my baby cousins and me buying my first fabric.
    5. Going off social media. I used to think I’d die without Twitter but my skin became clearer. I’m still learning to use it in a healthier way.
    6. Discovering you and your blog 🌻🌻🌻😙😙😙
    7. Coming out 🌈🌈🌈
    8. Healing and choosing myself each morning.
    9. Doing my minidefense.

    • Posted January 1, 2020 12:26 pm
      by Olotu Funke


      I am soooooo proud of you!!

      Discovering you and your poetry was amazing. The way you use Igbo. The way you write about us makes me want to worship myself all the time

      Organizing say her name Nigeria, being in BBC sex for grades!!!

      You are a powerhouse ! I am proud of you and I hope we connect more in 2020

  • Posted January 6, 2020 1:01 am
    by Ochez

    Hi Funke,
    letting it flow, 2019 was one year I really looked forward too. It came a bit too early and left almost immediately. A few days back, I felt the major thing I accomplished was graduating from the university (of which I am super happy and thankful for). Other goals such as growing my mailing list and blogging consistently was a bit far fetched. Sometimes, I let the thoughts of ‘you could have done better’ get to me. Other days, I shrug it off, smile, take a deep breath and move on. In between school and blogging, processional exams have been calling. 2019 won’t be forgotten so soon. Not anytime soon. At all *lol*. The moments, the lessons, the people and thoughts too. It’s been encompassing. Moving forward, I am more opened instead of being an extroverted introvert, taking the bull by the horns and doing 2020 big, with a lot of goals to accomplish. Life has been worth it.
    It’s a pleasure connecting with you here. 🙂


    • Posted January 11, 2020 12:19 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      You achieved alot 2019 and girl i am so proud of you and this fire in your spirit.

      I am glad that you are ready to take the bulls by the horns.and I hope you smash you 2020 goals while being gentle with yourslef

  • Posted January 6, 2020 3:42 pm
    by Ochez

    Hi Funke,
    2019 ended not being the supposed “year of shades of awesomeness for me’. As some of my goals as it pertained to blogging and the growth of my blog was not achieved measurably, i found myself starting a new blog from the scratch in the month of October while loosing my previous contents and domain. In all, I’m super grateful for the wins. I graduated from the University in 2019 which is one huge liberating move in my life coupled with the fact that there is so much to be done.
    Also, I’m grateful for the lovely friends I’ve been blessed with.
    Still on that I am so doing away with the extroverted introvert in me. *lol* (if that is actually a thing). I hope to engage more with like minded individuals and be deliberate about my goals and choices. I read some useful tips from naomidestiny.com which I’m running with for the year. It is a great pleasure connecting with you here Funke.


    • Posted January 11, 2020 12:21 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      I am so sorry you lost your contents, must have been so hard because that has happened to me before and its so painful

      cheers on being a graduate, it is not easy

      my pleasure connecting with you

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