Female Development and Style

The day before yesterday, I wore a yellow crop top and thongs, danced in front of my mirror smiling and laughing at myself.

Olotu Funke in self isolation

On Sunday, after Our President declared the lock-down. I had a panic attack.

I had been home for days before it was officially declared that there was going to be a lockdown in my state and other states. The reality of the situation finally set in.

I knew what was going on, I knew how dangerous COVID-19 is and why the lockdown is the best way to handle the situation. The fewer people that get infected, the better.

I could hear the sound of my heart beating, my hands shaking and my eyes tearing up.

When I noticed that the news triggered me, I played it cool, I tried to brush it off because it did not make sense for me to be having an attack over a situation I was well aware of.

Isolation in Nigeria
Self Isolating in Nigeria

The First thing I did was to Accept

Acceptance. Accepting that anything and everything can trigger me and it does not have to make sense. It does not matter if you saw it coming or not. Accept how you’re feeling and do not downplay it. A friend once told me that since she started acknowledging how she felt and giving them names, It was easier to deal with.

Playing it cool did not help me because everywhere I visited online had the news of the shutdown.

I started thinking about the kids and women I saw at the IDP camp, the children abused in several homes and wives that their husbands have turned into boxing bags, the poor people that have to hope that the day brings fruits so they don’t sleep hungry.

It made me worry, it made me sad.

I could not breathe properly. I was shaking. I was scared.

Anxiety during a pandemic

Breathe

I kept telling myself to breathe, I imagined it was an old friend telling me to breathe. His voice was always soothing and carried enough power and care for my body to listen. I remembered the voice and it helped. It took a while so I sat on the floor, for the most part, trying to hug myself.

It’s important to know how to calm yourself down.

Recognize that you are having an attack, close your eyes, take deep breaths; as much as you can. Focus on a memory, a voice, something soothing, your happy place. Validate your emotions and take your time.

Trust me, I know this is more difficult than it sounds but if I can do it. You can. I believe in you.

Distract yourself and enjoy the little things

Since that day, I’ve not had any panic attacks – I’ve been creating, dancing in front of my mirror naked or wearing bright colored crop tops and thongs. I love how they compliment my skin. I’ve been enjoying my own company. I’m making the most out of self-isolation and blocking out any news that will trigger me.

A reminder that this too shall pass. You are strong, you will overcome this. Okay?

If you want to read a detailed post on how I’m making the most of this time let me know by leaving a comment below.

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19 Comments

  • Posted April 3, 2020 7:58 pm
    by Eromonsele Emmanuel

    I’m doing a lot of reading and content creation recently. Also, I’m avoiding Twitter a lot because that’s currently the hotbed of Covid news.
    Thanks for sharing. This was so relatable.

    • Posted April 3, 2020 9:28 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      I am glad your creative juices are flowing. Anything to keep your sanity. Do it. And I’m glad you found it relatable

  • Posted April 4, 2020 8:28 am
    by Afolake

    I’ve been reading a lot and taking my abandoned courses. I’ve also been eating a lot more…
    I can’t wait for all of this to be over!

    • Posted April 4, 2020 8:33 am
      by Olotu Funke

      You see, me and food. I’ve been trying to balance with Yoga though. Let’s hope that works out. I should go back to my abandoned courses

  • Posted April 4, 2020 9:08 am
    by Ada

    Thanks for sharing, I have been doing a lot on tiktok. It’s been helpful to me. Getting distracted and loving it all the way

  • Posted April 4, 2020 9:56 am
    by Jessica Hyacinth

    I am honestly just blocking out whatever feels like a trigger, I was putting pressure on myself to make the most of this lockdown and get a lot of work done but I realized that I don’t have to get all the work done or pressure myself into learning skills so I am just taking each day as it comes. Resting, lazying about and just breathing

    • Posted April 4, 2020 9:59 am
      by Olotu Funke

      Yes! Take each day as it comes. Living is enough. I was also putting pressure on myself to do a lot but right now I’m just enjoying my company and having fun

  • Posted April 4, 2020 10:58 am
    by Aduni

    Been using tiktok a lot and working on my personal brand

    • Posted April 4, 2020 12:14 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      I need to get a hang of that App, working on my personal brand too. Love it!

      • Posted April 4, 2020 12:29 pm
        by Tari

        This experience is tougher than we would all like to admit. It has also out such a huge damper on my creativity but I’m taking it one day at a time, avoiding bad news and just trying to rest.

        • Posted April 4, 2020 1:20 pm
          by Olotu Funke

          Yes Tari, it is very hard. Take time for yourself. Existing is enough

  • Posted April 5, 2020 1:20 am
    by Naya

    Hi, Funke this is a great write up and I really enjoyed it. I am brown__naya on instagram and I have sincerely been scared since I heard about the news. I wanted to join if challenges but anytime i remember this issue I start imagining millions that are struggling for their lives and I just forget the moment that made me happy.
    But I am very grateful I stumble on thefinestylers page on ig on hope and since then my faith has been strengthened , I began to rebuke fear and trust God to heal and protect our land.
    I love the rebranding on your blog and welcome girl👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • Posted April 7, 2020 4:40 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      Oh Naya, I am glad you found positivity in the midst of the craziness. God will continue to strenghten us

  • Posted April 5, 2020 12:32 pm
    by sassyefeosa

    I’m learning how to make a wig. It turned out 2 be stressful but…wat d heck

    • Posted April 6, 2020 7:16 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      Awwwwnnnn.. it’s always difficult in the beginning. Just keep going!

  • Posted April 5, 2020 5:06 pm
    by vickiealfa.com

    So relatable I work with Chinese people so I already started feeling really sad and over thinking for a while back but right now I just try to focus on all the positive things, chill with family, sleep, write, create content and I try not to be idle.

    • Posted April 6, 2020 7:16 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      I’m glad you’re focusing on the positive part, you will be fine. Take your time and enjoy the little things 🤎

  • Posted April 10, 2020 8:30 pm
    by Adesuwa

    For me during this pandemic,I have been frustrated,irritable and my anxiety level has been on the high side,so what I do mostly is watching movies to occupy myself.I know this the best time to improve on oneself but I’m too lazy.

    • Posted April 10, 2020 8:31 pm
      by Olotu Funke

      You don’t have to improve on yourself yet. Just take time to feel like you again. Take it easy with yourself babe. Okay?

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