On the 10th of February, I went to a barbing saloon to cut my natural hair of 2 years +.
I’ve always wanted to go bald; it was one of those things on my bucket list like hugging a lion and having a yellow & white snake wrapped around my neck. I’ve heard that my bucket list is a crazy one. Maybe I’ll make a detailed post and let you decide.
A LITTLE BACKSTORY OF MY NATURAL HAIR JOURNEY
When I cut my hair for the first time after the birth of me 3 years ago, it was because I was frustrated with my damaged hair and wanted to go natural, ended up dying my hair and cutting it again after my front hair chopped off because the hairstylist was being generous with her glue.
Then I decided to grow my hair out as healthy as possible. it was health over length for me. My hair was booming, soft and always healthy, on my old blog I had lots of DIY deep conditioner and hair stuff.
I was so happy with her, I influenced my mom and about 8 other girls to go natural, I felt like a mummy to their hair, fast forward to January 2018, I was sure the natural hair life had to be paused, it was no longer for me.
REASON FOR CUTTING MY NATURAL HAIR
Earlier this year I was not in a great place, I was stressed, I was mentally stressed. I felt choked, I needed to breathe, My website was down. I can’t really pinpoint what it was but I know I felt like I had no control over anything happening in my life.
When I left for NYSC camp at Kubwa Orientation camp in Abuja I made tiny twists and I didn’t twist them out for close to a month if not more than and prior to this my hair was doing very good. I no longer felt like moisturizing, deep conditioning or using my scarf (I never really used scarf anyway).
Twisting out my hair was very frustrating and painful, seeing my hair scattered on the floor irritated me. I managed to deep condition, I wanted to make my hair and it was just expensive because ‘ABUJA’ and that was it for me. I was done with school, serving so I had to do a lot of things myself. With my money. And yo! I’ve not been building my financial knowledge to be spending my salary on my hair every month.
The frustration kicked in, the need to spend wisely and the need to change something in my life. Something I needed to see immediately. Made me cut my hair.
I informed my parents before cutting my hair and that was it, my father is not a fan of ladies keeping short hair but this was about me and I wanted to get it done. I said on my Instastory that I was also cutting my hair and as you can imagine, I got lots of DMs asking why and why I shouldn’t but this was about me and I wanted to get it done.
A lot of people seem to be interested in the reactions I got from people, I was in a place where I needed drastic change, what Chidera or Jane or Okoli thought did not matter, this was not for them, it was for me. For my sanity, for my comfort, for my peace and I am overprotective of myself. I know how I’ve let opinions weigh me down in the past and I won’t let it repeat itself.
If you want to cut your hair understand that for whatever reason you want to cut it, it is valid. It’s your reason. That’s all it needs to be to be valid. Your choice. Not your siblings/ neighbor’s hair. Yours. It’s beautiful when you start taking control of your life.
DO MEN FIND ME LESS ATTRACTIVE?
Yes. I really do not care. Less attention will not even be bad now to be honest, not from you, keep reading and supporting, please. But if you are worried if men will find you less attractive if you cut your hair. I think you need to reevaluate why you want to cut your hair.
I wouldn’t say I’ve actually had any regrets I mean
- I have saved money
- sleep better!
- Shower better, ladies I pour water on my head anytime I want, it’s an amazing feeling. Beautiful one
- Breeze is touching my round head
The annoying bits are people mistaking me for a child. I went for an Easter programme and was denied entry into the adult section because I am not an adult to them, the woman was so rude! Urghhhh and at my Primary place of Assignment (PPA) I have been asked if I was an Internship student over 5 times. Sometimes it can be flattering but mostly annoying especially because in this society of mine. Being old = being right.
Since I cut my hair I’ve felt more in control, I feel amazing, I look Amazing. I love it. for those that asked if I will ever grow my hair out again. I really don’t know. I’m enjoying this now and that’s what matters.
Although sometimes I miss my hair, I don’t think I’m ready for the commitment.
I enjoyed writing this for some reason. If you want me to make another post on how to take care of your short hair and what not to do let me know. Also if you have any question, ask me! I will reply.