Female Development and Style

On the 10th of February, I went to a barbing saloon to cut my natural hair of 2 years +.

I’ve always wanted to go bald; it was one of those things on my bucket list like hugging a lion and having a yellow & white snake wrapped around my neck. I’ve heard that my bucket list is a crazy one. Maybe I’ll make a detailed post and let you decide.


When I cut my hair for the first time after the birth of me 3 years ago, it was because I was frustrated with my damaged hair and wanted to go natural, ended up dying my hair and cutting it again after my front hair chopped off because the hairstylist was being generous with her glue.


Then I decided to grow my hair out as healthy as possible. it was health over length for me. My hair was booming, soft and always healthy, on my old blog I had lots of DIY deep conditioner and hair stuff.

I was so happy with her, I influenced my mom and about 8 other girls to go natural, I felt like a mummy to their hair, fast forward to January 2018, I was sure the natural hair life had to be paused, it was no longer for me.


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Earlier this year I was not in a great place, I was stressed, I was mentally stressed. I felt choked, I needed to breathe, My website was down. I can’t really pinpoint what it was but I know I felt like I had no control over anything happening in my life.


When I left for NYSC camp at Kubwa Orientation camp in Abuja I made tiny twists and I didn’t twist them out for close to a month if not more than and prior to this my hair was doing very good. I no longer felt like moisturizing, deep conditioning or using my scarf (I never really used scarf anyway).

Twisting out my hair was very frustrating and painful, seeing my hair scattered on the floor irritated me. I managed to deep condition, I wanted to make my hair and it was just expensive because ‘ABUJA’ and that was it for me. I was done with school, serving so I had to do a lot of things myself. With my money. And yo! I’ve not been building my financial knowledge to be spending my salary on my hair every month.

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The frustration kicked in, the need to spend wisely and the need to change something in my life. Something I needed to see immediately. Made me cut my hair.



I informed my parents before cutting my hair and that was it, my father is not a fan of ladies keeping short hair but this was about me and I wanted to get it done. I said on my Instastory that I was also cutting my hair and as you can imagine, I got lots of DMs asking why and why I shouldn’t but this was about me and I wanted to get it done.


A lot of people seem to be interested in the reactions I got from people, I was in a place where I needed drastic change, what Chidera or Jane or Okoli thought did not matter, this was not for them, it was for me. For my sanity, for my comfort, for my peace and I am overprotective of myself. I know how I’ve let opinions weigh me down in the past and I won’t let it repeat itself.

If you want to cut your hair understand that for whatever reason you want to cut it, it is valid. It’s your reason. That’s all it needs to be to be valid. Your choice. Not your siblings/ neighbor’s hair. Yours. It’s beautiful when you start taking control of your life.




Yes. I really do not care. Less attention will not even be bad now to be honest, not from you, keep reading and supporting, please. But if you are worried if men will find you less attractive if you cut your hair. I think you need to reevaluate why you want to cut your hair.

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I wouldn’t say I’ve actually had any regrets I mean

  • I have saved money
  • sleep better!
  • Shower better, ladies I pour water on my head anytime I want, it’s an amazing feeling. Beautiful one
  • Breeze is touching my round head

The annoying bits are people mistaking me for a child. I went for an Easter programme and was denied entry into the adult section because I am not an adult to them, the woman was so rude! Urghhhh and at my Primary place of Assignment (PPA) I have been asked if I was an Internship student over 5 times. Sometimes it can be flattering but mostly annoying especially because in this society of mine. Being old = being right.

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Since I cut my hair I’ve felt more in control, I feel amazing, I look Amazing. I love it. for those that asked if I will ever grow my hair out again. I really don’t know. I’m enjoying this now and that’s what matters.

Although sometimes I miss my hair, I don’t think I’m ready for the commitment.


I enjoyed writing this for some reason. If you want me to make another post on how to take care of your short hair and what not to do let me know. Also if you have any question, ask me! I will reply.





  • Posted April 11, 2018 5:55 pm
    by Koz

    Well done girl, you know I’m this close to doing the same thing and I don’t even intend telling folks about it. When they find out the explanation can come ?

    • Posted April 11, 2018 7:27 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Ahaha.. That was what my brother said when i wanted to bleach my hair

  • Posted April 11, 2018 6:00 pm
    by Orifunke Lawal

    I love love love this post. I’ve been thinking of doing a post about mh short hair and this was just the push I needed. By the way, it’s my first time of dropping a comment since you started your blog again. I’m going to catch up on all the amazing posts I’ve missed. By the way, hun, you’re doing a really great job. And your consistency game is hyper-inspiring.

    • Posted April 11, 2018 7:28 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you namesake ! I can’t wait to read yours.. Mans really trying to be consistent

  • Posted April 11, 2018 9:15 pm
    by Ada

    When it comes to my hair I can be very experimental. I have cut my hair like two times and I really want to cut it again. As for people’s reactions..Durrrrrr!!! http://www.adagirl.com.ng

    • Posted April 12, 2018 8:34 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      I can’t wait to see the new one. I love experimenting also

      Can’t wait to dye my hair

  • Posted April 12, 2018 7:22 am
    by Charles

    The short hair really suits you and it’s good that you followed your heart. People’s opinions are just opinions

  • Posted April 12, 2018 7:44 am
    by Amaka

    I’d love to cut my hair and dye it or do it in a waves hairstyle, perhaps even go natural! I don’t care about other opinions because it’s my hair and it only affects me, but my hair is quite long right now and I wonder about growing it all over again and stuff. Either way, you look absolutely amazing, your short hair suits you so much because you have the face for it! You have that top model look now – lmao. It’s your hair! Keep looking fab

    • Posted April 12, 2018 8:57 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you!

      Amen to that top model look.. Pursuing modelling now

      If you want to cut your hair just do it

      You may not even want to grow it out again

  • Posted April 12, 2018 8:43 am
    by Debs

    Such courage ehn. I am glad you made this decision personalized and less concerned about people’s opinion and I believe that is all that matters.

    I can relate with showering from your head. Now I miss my when my hair was just a short fro but I am currently loving this growth. Genuine happiness that stems from our choices.

    It really do fits you btw.


    • Posted April 12, 2018 8:59 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you Debbie

      Your hair looks good especially with the new hairstyle you have on

      You’re right about that genuine happiness. Major Key!

  • Posted April 12, 2018 8:50 am
    by Ayo

    Do and come. XX

  • Posted April 12, 2018 2:36 pm
    by Candace

    Nice post dear…. This hair really fits you. I wish I can cut mine but my as my sister would say” I have small stature I will look like a teen” .you free dear.

    • Posted April 12, 2018 9:35 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Awwwnnn.. I can imagine

      I’m a tall girl and i look like a teen ?

  • Posted April 13, 2018 9:31 am
    by Adetayo Adeoye

    Wow, this was amazing, I really enjoyed reading this.

    Even though I am a guy cutting my hair was a very hard decision to make, but I did it. After reading this I feel even more confident.

    • Posted April 13, 2018 5:45 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Awwwnn.. I’m glad I made you feel that way Tayo♥

  • Posted April 19, 2018 10:38 am
    by Winifred

    You are funny. Got me at “breeze is touching my round head.” Winifrend from the bloggers’ meet and greet @ famous potatoes

    • Posted April 30, 2018 2:48 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      I remember you Winnie .. glad you could make it

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  • Posted May 31, 2018 10:47 pm
    by Adanna

    I just love your love for yourself…..I love how selfish you are about what you let into your life. It’s so beautiful and that’s why I come here to read your posts. You’re so daring and inspiring and I love it. By the way short hair looks good on you

    • Posted June 2, 2018 11:15 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      thank you so much, this comment feels really good

  • Posted July 24, 2018 12:12 pm
    by Jumoke

    I enjoyed reading this ..
    This month makes it a year i have been on lowcut …
    so many times i’ve be mistaken for a boy or an underage ..
    infact in my Nysc camp .. the people i met there were like go get a wig dear because the students wont respect you because you’re smallish in nature and blabla..
    But little did they know i actually dont care .. as long as i am happy i dont care abt what ever anybody thinks of me ..
    and yes i carry my small coconut around like that and proud of it ..lol
    when i wear my Nysc uniform ..people call and ask my age ..like i look like a 16yrs old and all..

    Btw You look Great Girl…. xoxo

    • Posted July 27, 2018 1:59 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you love.. I’m currently serving and I get this a lot even where I work. Are you an internship student? I thought you were a boy. I’m just like bye please

  • Posted August 8, 2018 7:12 pm
    by Graciella

    I am on reading spree today on your blog. This is the third article I’m commenting on. Let me just say I love your blog and your voice, it resonates through your writing. Okay back to my comment.
    I’ve always wanted to cut my hair because of the freedom and lightness that comes with it. However, I fear that I would hate how I look because I cut my hair in junior school (not voluntarily though) and my self esteem dropped massively. So I guess I’m still indecisive about doing the big chop. Meanwhile, I’ll continue enjoying my natural hair.
    P.S.: I wish I could still read your former blog about natural hair. I’m all for health over length right now.

    • Posted August 8, 2018 9:10 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      I hate it when people especially students are forced to do something to their look and don’t have a choice. It sucks.

      Enjoy your natural hair love and only cut it when you’re sure. For the hair tips. I miss doing them also?? I’m indecisive about growing my hair back but if I do. You’ll definitely get some but for now. Check online and try your best to read personal blogs so you get all the right information you need

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