I always come across a lot of articles on what men need, what women need to know about men, how to act around men and all of those while I see very few articles for men about women, most of which are misleading and/or insulting to the 21st-century woman. Here are a couple of things men need to know about the 21st -century women in no particular order. Ladies, please feel free to add yours in the comment section below.

The 21st Century woman is not confused

We can actually think for ourselves. All that women are confused stuff is just not right. People get confused and it’s normal in life. It’s a part of growth. Men get confused. Women get confused. It is not a gender thing. It is a human thing!

If a 21st-century woman is interested in having sex with you, you’ll know 

One of the societal standards on women is to make sure they are being chased. It’s only cute when you’re wooing a woman that you know is interested in you. There are signs you know.

What’s absolutely wrong and disgusting is forcing yourself on a woman because you think she’s playing hard to get. This is the 21st-century bruv. She’s not just that into you!

This is one of the reasons why catcalling is still a thing. Men feel women have to be pressured to allow them into their life, to have sex with them so when their advances are rejected they start harassing (a lot of men will claim holding your hands on the street forcefully is not sexual harassment but will kill a gay guy if he does the same to them)

No means No when it comes to sex

If a lady tells you No. it’s wrong to persuade her, respect yourself and her, please… Like I said earlier, a lady knows if she wants to get physical with you or not so if she says No she means No. it’s either she’s not into you or she’s not ready yet and is taking her time to be ready to be with you. I mean it’s her body. She has every right to take her time.

I’ve noticed that some men don’t know this. They don’t know that women breathe and have brains that can process a lot of things. They see women as sex objects that have to be persuaded.

If she said no and you stopped then she says she meant yes and accuses you of being a weakling. Run away from ladies like that. They are toxic.

Do not think that because 5 percent of girls think that it’s valid. No means No and yes means yes. Tell her to learn how to speak her mind and don’t let her put you in trouble. If you’re a lady like that get a grip on yourself. You’re promoting rape and it’s disgusting!

 Your stupid obsession with the illusion of pretend-chastity is one reason thousands of women are hurt and violated daily in our society. Please do better – NewAfricann

Lack of control should never be a thing

Do not say I’m sorry, I could not control myself. Get a hang of yourself. Lack of control should have never been a thing and should not! Do you know that women get horny too? Like mad horny but self-control!, So why will you rape a woman and say lack of control and think it’s an excuse (not one single excuse to rape anyone)

If men are so strong as you all have been shouting. Yen yen yen. We are stronger than women why is it so hard to control yourself? Where is your strength?

If you find yourself constantly imagining raping someone’s daughter. Visit a psychiatrist. You need help.

Feminism is not against you 

I don’t know how to explain this. Well. Except you’re a misogynistic fellow. Then yes. We are coming for you.

Feminism is about gender equality. It’s about choice. Allowing women to breathe and make their choices in life because of their individuality not because of their sex. Recently  Chimamanda was in an interview that blew up on twitter and a lot of people criticized her. I like to imagine that they didn’t watch the video because if they had I see nothing wrong with what she said

She said open the door to people that are weak and not for women because you think they are weak. I saw a tweet saying Chimamanda hates men!? Huh?

Feminism is for all of us! Feminism helps with hyper-masculinity. I think I have to create a separate post for the benefit of feminism to men

Women are smart workers!

If a woman is in a business position, respect her because she worked for the job. It’s wrong to see a woman in the working place and assume that she knows nothing about the business. It’s really irritating that you just see a woman and assume she does not know the work. There are people in workplaces that shouldn’t be there and it’s not a gender thing. It is a human thing.

Women are different, as humans we are all different, so take your time to study the women around you and treat them well.

As a 21st-century woman is there something you want to add to the list? Let these men know

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