Life Bits

Let’s Talk About The Standards Of Female Friendships.

Female friendships is a type of relationship that when spoken about is associated with hate, envy, Jealousy and betrayal.

I’ve been to several states and went to about 4 secondary school so I’ve made a lot of “friends” that I’ve had to let go of over time.

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Sex As A Form Of Therapy to Girls And How To Heal

Sex as therapy

I was having a conversation with some women on sex and self-esteem. Reading my post on sexuality means I encourage women to accept their sexuality but this conversation was the reason behind why some ladies are very sexual. And God bless that day, a strong and amazing soul was ready to share her story with me centered on this issue.

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Feminism

Are Feminists Fake For Not Proposing To Their Partners?

I was reading one of the most amazing Essay I’ve read that was authored by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie titled Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen suggestions. This book was a letter in response to a friend of Chimamanda who asked how to raise her daughter, Feminist.  I learned so much from this book that I will be breaking down some lessons in upcoming blog posts, today’s focus is on marriage proposals.

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Poetry

A Story – Red wine and flowers

A story

She’s the one!.. the other girl whispered loudly  “maybe they just look alike”

I heard them, I was buying cereals at the supermarket, it’s been 3 months, I thought no one would recognize me.

I quickly wore my big D&G sunglasses, adjusted my already sagging silk scarf, made way for home crying as I drove

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Feminism

5 Alarming Effects of not Educating the Girl Child About Sex

girl child about sex

Sex education is not just a talk, it’s a series of conversation. A lot of girls like me never really got educated about sex apart from the ‘if you get close to a boy you will get pregnant’ talk, the girl child should be educated about sex depending on their age, the questions they ask and as puberty hits, help them understand their desires, why they think and feel how they feel and not shame them.

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Feminism

Things Men Should Know About The 21st Century Woman

I always come across a lot of articles on what men need, what women need to know about men, how to act around men and all of those while I see very few articles for men about women, most of which are misleading and/or insulting to the 21st-century woman. Here are a couple of things men need to know about the 21st -century women in no particular order. Ladies, please feel free to add yours in the comment section below.

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Feminism

Discussing An Under-reported Torture To Girls – Breast Ironing

I wish we didn’t live in a world where girls have to physically and psychologically abused to feel safe and still not be safe.

Breast Ironing/ flattening is self-explanatory really, it is the ironing or flattening of the girl child’s breast by pounding and massaging of a girl’s breasts, using hard or heated objects, to try to make them stop developing or disappear.

This barbaric act is mostly carried out by their mothers, aunties, sisters, grandmothers and even nurses.

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Life Bits

A Day Of Self Love And Social Media detox

social media detox

Ever felt a rush of emotions that you can’t control? like your suppressed anger and pain was dancing in front of you, where you can feel it but you also can’t feel it? You want to explode but know how your emotions can get the best of you and it’s better not to allow yourself? Make rash decisions then you wonder why you made such a dumb decision?

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Feminism, Life Bits

Effects of lack of sanitary towels on Nigerian girls

Nigerian girls without sanitary towels

I came across a tweet on Twitter. it was centered on sanitary towels being free. The twitter user made the statement that

“Saying pads should be free because it’s not a choice to menstruate is like saying food should be free because it’s not a choice to feed”

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Feminism

Society And Women’s Sexuality; How it’s seen, Effects & Reality

Women sexuality

I’ve been hoping that a day will come when we will talk about the objectification of women, women’s sexuality, how the society sees sexually active women as sluts, how women are made to shrink their sexual desires to be seen as women. We will talk about it, I will talk about it and that day is today.

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