A Day Of Self Love And Social Media detox

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Ever felt a rush of emotions that you can’t control? like your suppressed anger and pain was dancing in front of you, where you can feel it but you also can’t feel it? You want to explode but know how your emotions can get the best of you and it’s better not to allow yourself? Make rash decisions then you wonder why you made such a dumb decision?

That was how I felt on the 31st of May, 2018. I knew that something was wrong and I needed to be with my self, take care of myself, listen to myself more than I usually do and just be one with myself.

I decided to go on a social media detox, leave social media for a day, no communication with anyone except through phone calls. Prior to this in this Sister’s event post I mentioned that social media detox is a great way to overcome creative blocks.

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My social media detox was not just because I heard that it was a good way to collect your thoughts, it was because deep down I know I needed it, I know that I’ve started losing myself in social media, not by lying on social media but just by being on it. Scrolling through Instagram when I am not feeling too good mentally, not stopping to check myself because at that moment it feels good to just scroll rather than face my problems.

Scrolling on twitter and laughing hard, reading and responding to blog comments (my favorite part, thank you for always inspiring, your comments means a lot) and checking Pinterest till I fall asleep then do the needful the next day and the same routine.

It was becoming unhealthy but I was telling myself that it’s part of what I do. I’m a blogger, I should be online as if controlled I will stop being a blogger and my readers will stop enjoying me.

It was getting too much, an addiction of some sort. I had neglected how I was feeling and for me, someone that feels everything deeply it was a big deal and that was why I felt how I did.

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I was angry at myself for neglecting myself, for procrastinating important things and not seeing the big deal on being addicted to social media. And I felt anger deeply and the emotions that swim with anger.

On the 1st of June, I didn’t have to be so strict with not being online, my emotions already scolded me and the importance was glaring so it was not a fight to keep my phone off my hands.

I raised my golden cream curtains, smiled at the rush of breeze on my face happy to see the weather promising and calm, I raised the second curtain up, removed my bedspread and pillowcases, packed my laundry basket out of my room. Made a hole in the wall for my raffia hat to sit, kept an old teddy bear on the books on my workspace. Breathing, smiling, listening to music.

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I took out the unnecessary things in my room, made my room feel bigger, made me breathe better, and made me smile. I laid a new set of bedspreads, folded my soft blanket on my big bed. Feeling satisfied with myself I sat on the bed, tired but not exhausted.

Got up and did my laundry, more tired than I was, I mopped my room and scrubbed my bathroom. You could see your teeth on my tiles, even though it was blue.

I had a warm long bath, paying attention to every part of my body as though if not properly washed will be cut off. Toweled my body and applied my Palmers cocoa butter lotion and coconut oil, taking my time. Put on a fancy-free size black and white dress and a cute pink slip on. A dress I wear for only occasions, then it hit me that why do I save my pretty dresses for events and not wear them and feel like a princess in my room.

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Ate a meal I did not prepare, entered my room, laid down, smiling to myself and breathing, filtering my thoughts and smiling. I read my current book. “Americanah” by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and I love how it made me feel a lot of emotions. dressed up to use the ATM and work out but the rain beat me silly. Did some sit ups before bed while watching a movie I’ve watched before and I enjoyed it.

Didn’t go online till later at night to talk to someone important, I didn’t take myself out, I just needed to be with myself and enjoy my company, change my space arrangement and feel more welcomed in my space, my life.

I loved that what seems like a normal routine brought me so much more peace and the bottle of emotions seems to be opened. I plan to control the time I spend on social media, pay more attention to myself and take myself out one of these days.

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Have you ever gone on a social media detox? What do you do when you want to spend time alone and be at peace? How do you control yourself on social media?


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  • Posted June 2, 2018 2:19 pm
    by Ahmed

    Presently on a sorta detox too, been off twitter for a couple months now, ghosting on whatsapp and I only shuffle the gram, reason’s coz mans gotta focus, creating more time for myself.

    • Posted June 2, 2018 4:10 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Mans gotta focus on the important part of life really, proud of you

  • Posted June 2, 2018 2:27 pm
    by Anuli

    Hii girl. This was lovely. I have gone on a social media detox before and it lasted for months and made me understand how much priority I was giving it and how well I could do without it. In all, it was awesome. When I just want to be myself I read, watch movies and spend time with friends and of course sleep, the rush of peace is amazing.

    • Posted June 2, 2018 4:11 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      The rush of peace is really amazing. I’m going to try and do this frequently. You’ve inspired me ?

  • Posted June 2, 2018 6:06 pm
    by Jolaade

    This is nice, I should try it one day. I love americanah, even heard the movie is in the works, I can’t wait.

    • Posted June 2, 2018 6:10 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Yesss… I heard about the movie, I definitely want to finish the book before that comes out

  • Posted June 2, 2018 11:11 pm
    by Anesi

    I’m currently on a social media detox and I started yesterday, I’m still blogging though. I even deleted the social media apps I frequently use; Instagram, WhatsApp and Twitter. I’ll say it’s been good so far and I really hope I can keep up because it’s meant to be for a month but even if I can’t, that’s fine! I’ll be sure to do it one day for every week, I really need time for myself though! And Americanah is amazinggg!! I read it like 5 years ago but still, the thought of it is ? Now I know there’s going to be a movie, I know it’s not just GOT 8 I have to be really excited for.
    This post was really interesting to read btw! Cheers to more social media detoxessss?

    • Posted June 3, 2018 11:46 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      Cheers to more Anesi, deleting apps is such a good idea so when you go online you don’t get distracted, I will grow into that. a day every week is good enough dear and thank you for the compliment

  • Posted June 3, 2018 8:05 pm
    by Debs

    I do this very often especially when I realized my peace of mind is being questioned. There was a time I must view all my WhatsApp, Snapchat and Instagram status. These days, I cared less. It’s messing up with me and I can’t allow what I can control, control me.

    You must have felt so refreshed that day. Please enjoy it more often, we all need it.

    • Posted June 3, 2018 8:32 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Yes Debbie. Im going to be doing this maybe once every week.

      I was really refreshed

  • Posted June 3, 2018 10:40 pm
    by Amara

    Wow! I think I should do this. I cant even identify the feelings I feel these days, sigh. Thanks for this, profound and beautiful❤️

    • Posted June 3, 2018 10:41 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Thank you so much Amara, it will surely help and you can take more than a day if need be?

  • Posted June 4, 2018 10:17 am
    by Cirphrank

    This is a lovely and impressive mode.

  • Posted June 7, 2018 2:17 am
    by Oluchi

    Haven’t really tried this but I know I should do this. So sad I haven’t read up to two books this year. And I know I spend useless time on social media.

    Infact these days I have the time to check through apps on my home pages because I have no idea what to do. Now why don’t I shut off my phone and live deliberately? I wouldn’t know. I need this detox. I do

    Idle head

    • Posted June 7, 2018 9:55 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      you sound like you really need this detox and I’m glad that you now know that you do. that’s the first step to progress and I hope you d it and make it a constant thing

  • Posted June 8, 2018 8:33 am
    by Sike Gbana

    This is so necessary. My friends and I do a 6-6 social media fast sometimes and it is honestly the best thing ever. Yesterday I was online for almost 8 hours at a stretch and I am so ashamed of that. I need to be more disciplined with time, you have inspired me to do a detox asap.


    • Posted June 8, 2018 8:59 am
      by thefunkeolotu

      That’s so good.. I will introduce my friends to this! Maybe in that period we’ll read or go chill. Thanks for the idea!

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  • Posted July 9, 2018 9:47 am
    by Debby

    Sounds like my kind of day really. Peaceful. Indoors.


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  • Posted January 4, 2019 3:46 pm
    by Oyinkansolaplus

    Been trying to do a social media detox but it’s so had, mhen!

    • Posted January 6, 2019 3:20 pm
      by thefunkeolotu

      Ive realized that when you have a goal and a solid reason, things gets easier. so think about why you want to do it and go for it

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