I became a fresh graduate august by the grace of God when I dropped the pen from my last paper or was it when I got my statement of result? Well, whatever.
I’m a graduate and that’s all that matters’, looking back it’s been a minute since I’ve been a graduate, it’s been 3 months, but I’m still a fresh graduate right?
I’m happy I’m on the right part. I’ve been a lover of clothes and I’m glad I’ve opened my online thrift store on instagram @Shopwitholotu. But I’ll cut to the chase; you’re not here to read how I get excited when I’m going to the market to buy clothes.
THINGS NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT BEING A FRESH GRADUATE.
Being a university student was what I thought was the worst thing ever, the period of 4 years was the time I really cried and felt helpless because of mean lecturers and wrong judgment on friendships and relationships. A lot of things happened that I wish did not or I could erase forever but I know it’s never going to happen so I slapped my butt cheeks and said girl, you’ve made those mistakes, are you still alive? happy? winning? growing? Then stop whining and being too hard on yourself and let the crown sit on your head in peace.
Here are some things no one told me and some I was told but never took seriously.
University is not the enemy, the teaching methods is.
You will sometimes feel alone and uncertain about your future and it’s fine as long as you’re willing and will to do something about it.
More than half of the lessons you’ll leave school with won’t be from the classroom.
Your friends are no longer steps away, this is a reality that we all know but you need to understand that, some of your friends will misplace their phone and not talking for a week will eventually lead to months, some will never reach out because they are waiting for you to reach out and you fall apart forever because you will not see each other next semester to argue about who is at fault.
Some of your friends will do better and worse than you and its fine, this is when the reality of why out of over 1000 graduates or more, there will be only one Dangote. Celebrate their success and encourage the ones not shinning now.
The life out here is a broke one and savings are essential – I was careless with money and was supposed to save in my final year because I will task my dad massively, things didn’t go as planned because I was buharilized just as most of my level mates. An unplanned cost would always arrive and you had to attend to it.
Start shopping for your work life, this is selective and only for those that can’t wear most of their school clothes to work, your final year is not the time that you should buy dresses that you won’t be able to wear.
Employment or setting up your business is hard, there is no one willing to work for free out here, it’s not like the walls of the university where people do things for fun, you have to make money with your side hustle and that’s what everyone is trying to do.
Nobody is ready to borrow you money, we are all broke.
Your result mater and your results don’t matter, depends on where you’re viewing the sky from
It’s fine to make mistakes with boys, friends, love and sex. That’s where the lessons come from.
You might lose a friend to heaven, I’m sorry. You will get over it. It will be fine.
You will miss the university!!!!!!
TIPS ON STYLING A DENIM DRESS
It’s a proven fact that denim is not leaving the fashion scene anytime soon, it has become a wardrobe staple from denim jackets to mum jeans and the likes.
I snatched this dress HERE, lace up heels and purse from thrift and things. I opted for an easy look but you can certainly make this dress more casual by wearing a pair of sneakers, cap and a bag-pack or a more artsy/statement look with Ankara head piece and a belt.
What are your thoughts on my outfit? What did you not know as a fresh graduate?