Welcome back Smarties!
Social media has been going haywire these past few days because of Mercy Aigbe’s abuse and that of a young beautiful girl that was beaten and burnt beyond recognition by her ex-boyfriend.
As you can imagine, I’m not writing this post just to say that, I am because I have a lot to say! So you might want to sit on a couch and grab a cup of coffee.
I saw pictures of Mercy Aigbe’s face online and thought it was from a movie until I started seeing a lot of posts on it and then she finally confirmed that she was abused by him.
I have issues with Mercy Aigbe for staying in that relationship and although I do not blame her for the first beating she received, I blame her for the second and up till this moment, how many times have we read that if he lays his hands on you, he will do it again.
The excuse she gave for staying in the marriage angered me, for love and her child!? Really, if Mercy was a poor African woman, that excuse might work, even if. That itself is not an excuse.
It’s a pity how the meaning of love has been reduced to nothing
She has a good career, if she had left with their child, will Lanre have beaten her to this state? And her saying she stayed for her child is just a shame, if Lanre had touched her again after releasing the statement and God forbid, something worse happens to her or she had lost her life? How will her child feel for the rest of her life? The guilt that will follow that child for being the reason her mother stayed and was beaten to death will not leave her.
And she said she was a role model… To who? Staying in a marriage with an abusive man makes you a role model? If she had left after the first time he hit her I would stand up and clap for her and shout yasss girl, you’re a strong woman and a role model to other women out there that are going through the same madness.
She also mentioned that she didn’t want to leave him but she feels like they need help, she feels like? she didn’t want to leave? she feels like or she knows he needs help.
But no she stayed, for what? To prove that Nollywood marriages last? Or to brag about being a wife?
Everything boils down to the Nigerian mentality of being important or having a say as a woman only when you’re married.
I am angry at mercy for staying in the marriage for that long but I have to say that I’m glad that she’s finally out, and I praise her courage for getting help and coming public about it. But I can’t help but wonder that if the beating was not brutal, would she have left that marriage or still stay because of her role model life.
My dear smarties, what are your thoughts?