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Lessons from past relationships is a mini-series I started so we can learn from each other.

if you missed the first episode, you can read it here – 7 Lessons from my Past Relationships – Rose

For today’s post – I spoke to Amaka, a 25-year-old Communication Strategist and she shared 10 lessons from her previous relationships with me.


1. It takes more than a tingly feeling (butterflies) to build a relationship.

2. Relationships require work (time, energy, resources) from both parties to sustain it.

3. If it is overwhelming and you’re crying all the time, you probably shouldn’t be in it.

On past relationships

4. There is beauty in the mundane.

5. Respect is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship, make sure you are checking for it.

6. You have to like your partner non-romantically too.

7. Share everything, it strengthens your bond, but be cautious in the strength of your union that you do not lose your individuality.

8. Remember, you are your best thing.

9. Do not carry over anger, work through every situation, especially ones of conflict in real-time.

10. Do emotional inventory often, always check in with yourself. Check-in with your partner too.

Honorable mentions;
– Wanting to leave is enough.
– A thing isn’t beautiful because it lasts.

Do you want to read that first lesson again? ‘It takes more than a tingly feeling (butterflies) to build a relationship‘. A relationship requires a lot of work and effort. it is also advised not to jump into relationships because the butterflies can sustain you so far. when it’s time to put in work. Are you ready? choosing to be in a relationship is a decision you need to be sure you are ready for.

Kindly share the posts with your friends if you enjoyed it and share your lessons down below.

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  • Posted May 4, 2020 4:46 pm
    by Roseline Mgbodichinma Anya okorie

    Loveeed it

  • Posted May 5, 2020 12:45 am
    by Eromonsele Emmanuel

    My biggest takeaway was the butterflies. It takes way more than a mutual I like you, you like me to grow a healthy relationship.
    Thanks for sharing Funke! I’ll come back to this when I’m ready to date again.

    • Posted May 5, 2020 7:32 am
      by Olotu Funke

      Ready to date again. I like that. Take your time

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